Morning light from a spring sun shone through glass bottles nestled on an overflowing bin of empties, causing a Kryptonite-like glow on the patio.

The fall had been long and in that time coffee cups had replaced wine glasses, and black mascara tears vanished.

Three Years Ago

Three years ago I found a text on your phone. It read: “I wish I could spend every Christmas with you.”

It wasn’t from a relative, or a friend who had a name I recognised. It wasn’t from me either.

This Christmas, she finally got her wish. And I was finally free.



I am the one who no longer gets to sleep longer in the mornings. Not that it happened often anyway. It’s just now I don’t have a choice. My hazy eyes greet all three little people with a sleep-deprived smile, a tight cuddle, and as many kisses as they will allow me.

“Breakfast,” they wail. “We’re hungry, Mummy. We’re thirsty too. Can we have eggs for breakfast. Pancakes?” Too tired to cook, I dish up bowls of cereal either drowning in too much milk or paddling in not enough. I promise myself I’ll do them a cooked breakfast at the weekend.

I give myself a well-deserved fist-bump for finding the energy to lay out today’s clothes the night before. I then gulp cheap coffee to give me strength to wrestle them each into their outfits.

The eldest tests my patience every single morning by giggling and clowning around into his school uniform. In turn, the middle one copies his brother and there’s more tomfoolery for me to deal with. Then there’s the baby-slash-toddler, ( I haven’t decided if I’m going to let him grow past baby status yet) and changing a nappy on him is like playing musical statues during an earthquake.

By this point, there’s a warm coffee hiding somewhere, laughing at me for losing it again. The mornings when I’m due to be at work are hell. I have to make myself look presentable. It’s the days when all I have to worry about is the school run that I cherish; hair scraped back into a ponytail, make-up free, finished off with jeans and a baggy jumper to hide the evidence of last night’s biscuit-binge bloated stomach.

After all of that, I’m ready for another coffee. There’s no time though. Next it’s teeth, hair-brushing, check all of the bags are packed, school books accounted for, forms signed ready to return, money for some school fundraiser or charity day, cakes and biscuits baked for the school to sell for god-knows-what reason, water bottles filled, shoes on, coats on, hat or suncream – depending on the weather – on. Baby in the pushchair, the older two with fruit in their hands (“Mummy, we’re still huuuungry.” Ready, we step outside.

I wear my smile well, determined not to show them I’m beat. I’ve managed another morning doing it all on my own. Again. It’s only 8.40am and already I feel like I’ve run around the world and back again.

When he left us, with nowhere else to go but hers, I let the resentment sink in for a little while. I could see no end to doing it solo. First in the morning, then all over again with the extra elements of cooking dinner, running a bath, and doing homework added in to the mix. That’s before I’d even considered housework and laundry.

If overwhelmed was the top of the iceberg, then it was nothing compared to the loneliness, heartache and betrayal which lingered underneath it, trapped in coldness. How the hell was I going to do this on my own?

“But, Mummy,” my eldest looked at me confused. “ You’re not on your own. You’ve got me.”

“Mummy,” my middle boy lept into my arms and babbled “I wuve you.”

Then the baby-slash-toddler shuffled his way over to me like a tiny drunk man and placed his favourite toy car on my lap.

I may have all of the responsibility now but I also have everything he left behind and I won’t have to miss a single bit of it.

Dinner Time

It’s not quite the same now. Three plastic plates rest on the kitchen worktop with a single porcelain one, where once there sat two.

Even when he worked shifts, you would still make him a meal and cover it over with cling film, ready for when he eventually arrived home.

Now there’s no need.

It’s just you and the boys this meal time. Every meal time.

Dinners aren’t quite as glorious as they once were. It’s mainly freezer food and convenience based now. Quick. Easy. Everything a divorce isn’t.

Gravy has become a missing ingredient. That had always been his job. Your version had lumps. Still, the boys seem okay with a ketchup substitution.

Despite the absence of the second adult, dinner time has become a happier occasion. You no longer sit across from a stranger, who ate his meal in record time and removed himself from all talk about the day.

Your eldest dominates the conversation without fear of being told to be quiet. The middle child eats at his own pace. The baby is focused on what vegetables he’s going to be presented with. Really it’s the same, but it’s different. Calmer.

And while you stare at the walls, consumed by an unwelcome loneliness, you allow yourself to be comforted by the relief of it ending and the giggles from your children enjoying an extra scoop of ice cream

The Road Trip

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The best road trip I’ve ever taken is the one I haven’t yet.

Always a dreamer, I believed I was travelling in the fast lane along route 66. A smile on my face, three perfectly perfect kids in the back, and my man at the driver’s seat; the mister who’d made me missus.

Then I found myself on London’s notorious M25, stuck in a cocoon of noise and fumes. My engine stalled and I hadn’t the strength to start it up again. I gripped the steering wheel to stop myself from falling.

The traffic had only just started to clear by the time you reached me. You coaxed me out and into your own car where we held hands on top of the gear stick. Later, you turned left and onto a new road.